Where are the the molesters? the rapists? the perveted ones?

Guys arent as bad as they're made out to be you know, theyre really actually kind of scared of doing things wrong, not being good enough... when to kiss, what to say, what to do. You might already know that, but ive been thinking about it a lot lately, and its true. its just not cool to be unsure of yourself you know, so they pretend they arent, and sometimes the ladies get fooled. I used to be, i used to think guys were fearless, and they mostly wanted the physical and theyd do anything to get it. But really, theyre hesitant, and they dont want to mess things up or make you mad at them. Its interesting. Of course there are the perverted jerks, but usually they dont get involved in a serious relationship, and if they do then... heh.
My aunt Joanna, and her best friend Robyn, one whos dating and ones whos engaged -both with a LOT of experience with all kinds of men, have given me some facts about guys. This might come as a suprise to you, but there are only two types of guys in the world. We named them, based on their relationships past and present, The Angelo and the Darryl.

The Angelo is the kind of guy that latches on. He devotes himself to you, obsessively usually, doesnt so much as glance in anothers womans direction, buys you flowers, clothes, tells you he loves you within a few weeks of going out, takes you to dinner, wants to spend every breathing moment he can with you. He calls a lot, gets depressed a lot, doesnt like it when you want to do things with your friends, is quick to get the wedding planned. He isnt overly physical, but he doesnt really like it when youre more than 10 feet away. He doesnt like it when you look beautiful in public, where other people'll look at you. He'll do anything for you. He crams too much into the beginning of the relationship, and then there isnt anything to look forward to. He'll work and provide for you, move anywhere for you, give you a foot rub. If he doesnt want you to do something though, he wont say it, but he'll give you a heck of a gult trip thats for sure. Theres some great times in a relationship like this, but theres also tons of stress. Depression, back pain, insomnia... etc. have been known to occur with a lot of frequency in relationships like this. And when he calls your cell for the fifth time in 2 hours, dont be suprised if you just go "damn" and hang up on him.

The Darryl- Louder, more dominant. He doesnt give up, speaks his mind, tender moments are far apart, but something to look forward to, because when he says something, he means it. He's not obsessive, likes to do things with his friends, most likely watches sports. He lets you have freedoms, but has a jealous bone as big as as wide as your shoelaces can stretch. He'll suprise you with some of the things that he does, because under his tough exterior is really a kind hearted guy. So when your sick, he might just drive 5 miles in a snowstorm to get you your favorite icecream, but not every time and not if you ask. He's an amazing comforter and such, when youve got him alone (and sometimes after you cook him dinner). He knows a lot about everything, and likes trying new things with you. Not the typical date, he'll come up with something creative. There are usually more arguments in a relationship with a Darryl (an Angelo doesnt typically fight, they roll over and play dead, looking at you with puppy dog eyes) because theyre more hard headed. Theyre not much into "girly stuff", like shopping and decorating and weddings. You might go out with him for years before he proposes.

Ive had experiences with both kinds of guys, and i have to admit that it looks like joanna and robyn are right. Sometimes its hard to tell at first which one a guy is because they all try to hide behind the stereotypical gu-mask, but youll figure out if you get to knwo the person well. Sometimes looks can be very decieving too, a guy that works out and hangs out with his friends al the time might turn into an angelo in a relationship and give up everything. A skinny dork might be a Darryl, taking it casual, but being possesive of you at the same time. See what I mean?
What are the guys in your life... or what are you?

Love~
Monika =)